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Male Nurturing : Is There Such a Thing and Does It Matter?
K.C. Wilson
Is cannon fodder all there is to masculinity? Warriors, nothing more?What is a father’s contribution to a child's development? Is there anything to parenting that is inherently each of female and male, or is nurturing a “woman thing?” Do fathers matter as a distinct parent, or do children only need a caregiver?
Have men a firm grasp of what makes them indispensable to their children, or that they are valuable at all, just as needed as their mother?
Is there scientific evidence?
There is tons of evidence, and Male Nurturing makes it available to all. Consider this the CliffsNotes® (or Coles Notes®) on fathercare. See some of the samples below.
Author K.C. Wilson has compiled and annotated over 60 of the most significant studies done on fatherhood over the last 35 years, and starts it off with a summary of what is revealed and its implications. The purpose is to make this large body of work accessible. The reader comes away with a solid grounding in fathercare.
Do you want to know why you (or your husband or father) matter as a parent? What makes you special? Don't miss this quick, simple, authoritative guide.
Thousands of hours of research in an easily digested 44 pages, in PDF. (Compatible with Acrobat Reader V3 and up, and all versions of Adobe eBook).
Samples
The Same
Infants form close attachments to their fathers (bonding) as readily and deeply as, and at the same time as their mothers.Role of the Father, Michael Lamb, pp. 1 - 63; Michael Lamb, "Father-Infant and Mother-Infant Interaction in the First Year of Life," Child Development, Vol. 48 (1977), pp. 167 - 181.
Fathers are as excited as mothers over their newborns, and bond to them at the same time and pace. Fathers hold and rock more than mothers, and equal mothers in talking, kissing and imitating.
Greenberg & Morris, "Engrossment: The Newborn's Impact upon the Father," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 44 (1974), p 526; Parke & O'Leary, "Father-Mother-Infant Interaction in the Newborn Period," The Developing Individual in a Changing World, Vol. 2, Riegal & Meacham, eds. (The Hague: Mounton, 1976), pp. 653 - 663.
Even male college students are as sensitive as women to infant crying patterns.
Frodi, Lamb, Leavitt, Donovan, Neff, & Sherry, "Fathers' and Mothers' Responses to the Faces and Cries of Normal and Premature Infants," Developmental Psychology, Vol. 13 (1978), pp. 490-498. See also Ross Parke's book, Fathers.
But Different
A) Social Development"In general, girls who have a warm relationship with their father and feel accepted by them are more likely to feel comfortable and confident when relating to the opposite sex. . . . During the teen years and later, a girl who has not had a rewarding relationship with her father is apt to feel insecure around males. She may feel unattractive as a woman, doubt that any man could love her for herself, and distrust men in general."
Richard Warshack, The Custody Revolution, p. 44 - 45.
Even at five months, the boys who have more contact with their father are more sociable with a stranger.
Milton Kotelchuck, "The Infant's Relationship to the Father: Experimental Evidence," Lamb, ed., Role of the Father, pp. 329 - 344.
"When fathers are away for long periods of time, as in the case of sailors at sea, their boys are less popular with classmates and do not enjoy friendships as much as do boys who have more contact with their fathers."
Richard Warshack, The Custody Revolution, p. 41.
Fathers do more physical play. When two-and-a-half-year-olds want to play, more than two thirds of the time they will choose their father over their mother.
Clarke-Stewart, "And Daddy Makes Three: The Father's Impact on Mother and Young Child," Child Development Vol. 49 (1978), pp. 466 - 478.
A lot of physical father play corresponds to better, deeper friendships with peers among children. Children learn self control, how to manage and express their emotions and recognize others' cues.
MacDonald & Parke, "Bridging the Gap: Parent-Child Play Interaction and Peer Interactive Competence," Child Development vol 55 (1985), pp1265 - 1277; Youngblade & Belsky, "Parent-Child Antecedent of 5-Year-Olds' Close Friendships: A Longitudinal Analysis," Developmental Psychology Vol. 28 (1992), pp. 700 - 713; Snarey, How Fathers Care for the Next Generation (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press), pp. 35 - 36; Gottman, The Heart of Parenting (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997), p. 171.
Girls whose fathers play with them a lot tend to be more popular with peers and more assertive in their interpersonal relationships throughout their lives.
Parke et al, "Family-Peer Systems: In Search of the Linkages," Kreppner & Lerner, eds,. Family Systems and Life Span Development (Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum, 1989), pp. 65 - 92. As cited in Parke & Brott Throwaway Dads (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co., 1999).
Men and women who have had warm paternal relationships have better, longer marriages and engage in more recreation.
Franz, McClelland, & Weinberger, "Childhood Antecedents of Conventional Social Accomplishments in Midlife Adults: A 36-Year Prospective Study," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology Vol. 60 (1991), pp. 586 - 595
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